As the long stressful/restful holiday break comes to a conclusion, we look back and reminisce on all the good tidings, food and celebrations that we had. Now that it’s over, we start facing the reality, after all the decorations are put up, all the presents are unwrapped and shoved into your bedroom closets. Facing the back to work jitters, the protruding belly after engorging the sweet desserts silently depositing in your fat cells are a reality check.
We don’t want the festivities to end. Over indulging on the Netflix and updating your social media like you are having the best time of your life. Like old saying goes, all the good things will eventually come to an end. Bills have to be paid and dishes has to be cleaned. The new decade is a new start of hopes as cliche may it sound. We leave our sorrows behind and on to the new great chapter full of possibilities. Oh how we have grown and changed during the past ten years health wise, mentally and aged of course.
What do we aspire when we make our resolutions? Is is good to aim for an high unrealistic goal? Do we start making promises to ourselves and break them the day after we lose motivation and lease on life? Do we fall back to our old ways or habits? Do we go back to were we are or be the best version of our selves?
The key to accomplishing a task depends on the drive called self-efficacy. Psychologist Albert Bandura defined self-efficacy as a belief that an individual has the ability to accomplish a specific task. Along with motivation is grit, persistence and resilience are qualities to consider. Repetition breeds confidence.
How do we even start? The hardest step is usually the first step. We have to start somewhere. Putting our best foot forward as we go on our day. Sip our coffee with delight as we get a headstart using all our senses to enjoy. Breathe and savor the moment and thank God for new beginnings.
For someone who be on social media a lot, I think it should not consume majority of our time. It has indeed become a part of our daily life. Our day is not complete without check what our facebook friends’ status.
It has become an addiction for me and a stress reliever. Not knowingly, what is does is create an cycle of doing nothing, a mindless repetitious scrolling looking for something that would be interesting. We become a victim of comparing ourselves with someone’s highlight reels. If people would be mindful what they post, it will be different, I said in my head.
The beauty of social media is that we can be anyone we want to be. We pretend to be someone we are not. We can portray on social media a life of fantasy and excitement. That is social media, it is not our reality. It’s purpose is for only for entertainment.
What we see in some posts are unrealistic, an idealized filtered version of themselves. For some people, seeing these posts can have a negative effect because it can be depressing and can bring low self esteem.
When we present ourselves positively, do we like to seek validation? If we share our misfortunes, do we seek sympathy? Or are we just overanalyzing stuff? What are our motives in posting? Are our posts trying to say that we are better or more successful that our peers?
Are we truly happy for our peer’s achievements or do we get bitter? We don’t see their struggles, we don’t hear their complaints. We shouldn’t judge a person on social media by what they post or don’t post. We shouldn’t take things seriously. (Which is what I am doing by writing this article, LOL)
What I am trying to say that, viewing things differently from a positive perspective will bring a change in our mindset. Social media will be here for a long time. Trying to filter who we follow and what we see in our newsfeed would be good for our well-being.
The most wonderful time of the year can be the most dreaded time to most people. Trying to plan the perfect thanksgiving and holiday meal can be a daunting task. Picking the perfect table centerpiece that will match with your table setting can be arduous when you are working with a tight budget with zero craft skills.
The holidays are fast approaching. A sumptuous holiday meal surrounded by a festive decorations such that featured in the magazine cover, sounds like a perfect holiday dream. Tradition dictates that holidays should be lavished with expensive gifts surrounding a tree. Can we truly enjoy the holidays without forking a ton of money on gifts and food? Not everyone can afford an extravagant meal on holidays.
As we are prepping for the gift giving season, it can pile us a lot of debt if we are not careful. Why do we we give gifts? Do we give because we expect to receive something in return? We put a lot of thought in our gifts, because we do care of the recipient. Giving gifts doesn’t have to be stuff or material things. May it be a card or a simple gesture, a phone call that reminds us that we are being thought of.
Everyone has different way of celebrating the occasion. The holidays are supposed to be a joyous occasion. But it can bring feelings of isolation and anxiety because of unmet expectations. It can bring sadness because of a loss of a loved one, health concerns or money issues.
What I remember most during these time are the smiles and laughs during family gatherings and occasions. Opening gifts with your name on it are just an icing on the cake. I do remember the enticing aroma of homemade meals, the warmth of hugs and anticipation of the wonderful memories yet to come.
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Relationships are hard. There are moments when you are on cloud nine. When you both agree on almost everything and there are days you are not even on the same page, not even on the same book! Even the slightest inconvenience annoys you. Your beliefs and goals doesn’t seemed to be aligned anymore, You feel that your feelings doesn’t matter, to someone who used to be your world.
It is not your fault. It is never your fault. You loose your self trying to please them. Pride tells you that you are not wrong. You hate it when someone criticizes when you are just barely making it through the day. Appreciation would’ve made someone’s life bearable. But you never get that pat on the back. Of all the things you have did right, what is remembered are the things you didn’t do. An apology would’ve been nice.
You try to compromise and be open minded. Sometimes you feel that your voice seemed unheard. You feel that you are doing more than your share in the relationship. It is more work that it becomes stressful. Your give everything you got,but it is not enough. Until you just loose it. You just loose it.
Expecting a little too much or better to lower your expectations, I learned to accept the realities. That you will be hurt by the same person that you Love the most. You feel numb that the tears doesn’t even make any sense anymore.
You hate this feeling. Of not able to control the situation. Of breaking down over and over again. There comes to a point that you are both tired and overwhelmed. When everything is happening all at once. You try to be the strong one but sometimes, you get disgusted. Your heart get broken to little pieces, itty bitty pieces.
The moment you will realize that this feeling will soon pass and the cycle continues until you break it. Or until someone gives up.
There are days that we succumb to our fears, we give up before the battle starts. Stress becomes overwhelming that we don’t have any motivation in our cells. You dread doing the monotonous 9-5 job and living paycheck to paycheck and the cycle continues.
Everybody struggles and have problems, each of us carry an invisible load. It is so quick to tell somebody who had encountered a traumatic experience to lighten up and think positive because we don’t know what they are going through. We act tough until something devastating happens to us. We all have been through a difficult stage in our lives. We shouldn’t judge anybody period.
When we focus on the negatives, our outlook in life becomes dimmer. What and who we listen to on the daily basis affect our thinking. We surround ourselves with people who can be our tribe, who have the same aspirations and will build each other up.
Life becomes so overwhelming when we want to accomplish everything all out once. When we prioritize unimportant things that drains us mentally, emotionally and physically. We need to focus on life, work, balance and sanity to avoid chaos. Finding a outlet to de-stress should be in our to do list also.
Life happens when we are busy making plans as the saying goes. We can’t really be prepared with unexpected events. The inevitable still happens whether we like it or not. While we are able, we try to keep up with the things that we can control. If we know our time on earth is limited why not we love harder and treat each day sacred as if it our last? Chase our goals like it’s nobody’s business. There would not be time to worry and wallow.
Do you ever had that one thing you that you desperately wanted more than life itself and you know that it will be hard to achieve. Something that would fill the void inside of you and will make you feel “complete” May it be having the latest gadget or having the latest trend purse that you save every penny to buy.
Social status and peer pressure dictates what is the norm of what you should be doing in right now. As you scroll down social media, you read about a lot of self-improvement talks, about how to’s : mindful living, minimalist mindset, organizing you life, hustle like a millionaire, parenting the right way, traveling hacks, keeping your mental health in check and the lists goes on.
Browsing the internet, looking at your peers excelling in every aspect in life, makes you wonder, if you are doing something wrong or you have chosen the wrong field. Just looking at the innocent post about the achievements of your friend’s children, makes you think that your parenting is not right or if you should try harder to get to what they should be doing at their grade level if not more.
Are we behind in life if we are not performing what the norm tells us to do? Waking up early in the morning, eating low carb breakfast, doing meditation, packing your kid’s bento lunch with cut-out heart shape veggies and fruits and preparing a gourmet dinner. By mid thirties, we should have kept a healthy lifestyle, running a 5K, having a creative hobby. While these are nice goals to keep in mind, the things that we do or don’t do shouldn’t define our worth.
We strive hard to be what we want to achieve in life not because of what the Joneses are doing. We all have different roles, gifts and nobody should feel ashamed of what we did or what we have accomplished. Our life would be less complicated if we are not pressured to be some version of ourselves that is not real. At our own pace, we could pursue goals that are meant for us and be grateful for the outcome.
It just happened, all of a sudden, someone pop into your mind for no reason you can’t think of.
As if there is a strong energy directed at this person that you must hear from him/her.
Like pieces of puzzle you want to put together,
Maybe you saw a post that triggered a thought. Maybe you want to tell this person you are thinking of him/her without trying to sound intrusive. You feel theres something wrong but just cannot pinpoint what it is.
The universe is conspiring that something important is bound to happen.
There is a voice inside of you telling you to give him/her a call or send them a text without really looking for an response.
I am okay…Three words convey a lot of hidden meaning. What they really want to say is life has just been so hard right now. It means that he/she don’t want to talk about it but maybe will do when the time comes. Or it maybe “I just need a hug right now”.
You can’t help but pray for this person.
Whatever it is, will be.
Everyone had their all fair share of trials. At one point in our lives, we all have been broken. Our lives shattered that we don’t know how will we can ever pick up the pieces.
You never know when someone is thinking of you. Praying for you. And it all make a difference. To someone who had their last straw, a simple smile or I am thinking of you, can make a difference.
It does and it did made a difference in my friends life. She was at one point about to jump off a building. She was in a brink of of desperation and just had about enough. I didn’t know what situation she was in but I truly believe that prayers were heard and that moment was a truly turning point.
Out of a blue you hear from someone you haven’t heard from ages. Someone telling you to hang in there despite the difficulties, may be a sign that God is telling you something.
Your may not see your worth, but God does. Embrace the tears and brokenness. Don’t wait until you are ready to answer Gods calling. God uses the rescued to rescue His people( Christine Cain) While we are still a mess, God saw the beauty in us.
If you feel a tug in your heart to reach out to a someone.do it. It may be just a sweet note saying that you are thinking of them. It may be a just a simple prayer. The simplest thing, may change someones life. Like it did mine.
You just typed a long report and suddenly, it was nowhere to be found. As if it vanished into thin air. What make it worse is that it is due tomorrow. You only had 3 hours of sleep. How on earth are you going to retrieve a 24 page book report? You take deep breaths and hope that there is a backup file somewhere. Negative. Looks like you have to start over again.
You get desperate. What are you going to do now? Crying seems like the best option but it will not accomplish anything. But it will lessen the pain, I hope… There is a solution to any situation, as your therapist might say. You have to toughen up and face reality. You can do this! It is not a hopeless case yet. There are still a few hours left to cram!
You say to your self, can this day get any worse.? In that particular moment, you just want to be alone and nurse your wounds. You might get easily irritated with someone who will remark I told you so. He/she will state the obvious, rub it to your face and lecture you on how to save your file. There will always be someone who has toxic tendency to negate you, bring you down and belittle you. Do you walk away or argue with them? When you reach your boiling point, will you get mean with your co-worker, stranger or anyone who cross your path and feel your wrath or would you rather wear a smile that not fake and brighten someones day even though your having a rough day?
It is eIt is easy to be generous and kind when your happy. .You get that promotion you are longing for. You found a cheap flight for your most awaited destination trip. You feel so high as if you on top of the world. (No pun intended). Nothing can ever dampen your mood. Not today, so you think. You tend to be nicer and more tolerant and patient with your co-worker and boss, even though at most times, they have a tendency to get on your last nerves.
Do you emotions and mood distract you from reaching your goal? Would you skip your exercise routine because you don’t feel like it? Do you get anxious or loose your temper easily when things don’t go your way?
An article described feelings and emotions are like sand. They are fleeting as the waves tosses the sand castles. Favorable conditions deem the sand castles strong, but in a split second it can be destroyed. Emotions are just like that. ..Temporary. At the end of the day, what matters most is if we did what is right, choose our words, action and thoughts. What is permanent is that no matter what emotional state we are in, God is always there for us in all times to care for us, to guide us according to His perfect plan.
They say that the good thing when you hit rock bottom is that the only way to go…is up. To those who have reached the lowest point of life, it will take a whole lot of struggling to come back ashore. Once you reached the end point, can it be any worse?
We all have encountered a certain degree of loss of some sort. Grief impacts some of us differently. Some have resorted to addiction, some have chose to forget and move on. Should we take life’s adversities with a grain of salt?
As you are gasping for breath, fighting to get a grip on reality, you mind has decided to shut-off the echoing voices and taunts you for your self-inflicted turmoil and misery. The body can withstand all the pain until it make you feel numb and restless. Until your remaining strength choose to succumb to your emotions.
A series of less evil decisions led to your reaching the end game. It seemed to be a point of no return until you snapped out of reality. Is it true that they say there is no coincidences in life? Everything that happens and all the events that has been orchestrated have a unique purpose and that there should not be room for any regrets. Until we realized, in hindsight, looking from a new perspective, if certain situations did not arise, will it had help shape the person who we are now?
As you envision different scenarios on how you picture an alternate ending should be, you doubt yourself if the sacrifices are still worth it. Change is a necessity for a complete restoration of the mind, body and soul. Sometimes a full 360 degree turn shall lead to a healing process, you never have thought was possible as you witness your hopes and dreams crumble before your very eyes. Then suddenly, it happened, you have triggered a small spark within, a drive inside of you that you never thought that you were capable of having.
The battle is not over for the weary, the fatigued and the desperate . Every little step is a triumph. Every little positive thought once during the day will help carry over until the next anxious thought sneaks up again. Breaking the chains of negative thoughts, burning the bridges of toxic ties hat lead to your downfall will pave a way to a less bumpy road as you proceed your next step.