While it is nice to be receive a lot of greetings on your birthday, I chose not to share my birthday on social media. I am happy that some close friends and relatives remember my birthday without Facebook notifications. For me, having a lot of greetings doesn’t make me feel more special or any less special when Facebook friends don’t greet me on occasions.
Dont get me wrong, I am thankful for becoming one year older, becoming more wise because of what experience has taught me. Looking back, I celebrated my birthday with friends and company, some I no longer see or hear from. When we were kids, birthdays are always a major event because of the milestones. And the presents too! The bigger the presents the better. As we get older, it’s no longer about the presents but who is present in our lives.
Everyday is a special day to me. I don’t tell people it’s my birthday because I don’t want them to treat me differently. I don’t want the to feel obliged on giving me a present either. Even for one day, I don’t want be the center of attention. I would appreciate it more if a someone gives me a thoughtful letter or a phone call on an ordinary day just because.
I love to receive gifts but I love giving more. I enjoy seeing a child happy. Genuine happiness is being content with whatever the condition your in. We don’t have a lot of material wealth to give, but we can sure make a difference to one person by sharing what we have..
Every day not only on my birthday, I contemplate on all the things that happen in my life, whether it is good or bad. What brought be to shape the person I am now and what I have to offer. I am thankful for both.
From a a traditional standpoint, the father’s responsibility is to be the breadwinner, providing the basic needs of the family financially and emotionally, being the disciplinarian, the role model, protector.
Modern day fathers have a different roles now because of the changing times. There are single dads, stay- at home dads that handle most or all of the child care and household tasks. Because of economical reasons, health issues, the family roles can be reversed. There are also foster parents and step dads who raise the children as their own. And for some reasons, there are fathers who decided to stay away from their children’s lives.
When I was young, my dad taught me how to ride a bike, how to swim. I remember he can make the best fruit drinks and make appetizing meals. I remember the trips we made to the park and to the zoo. I also remembered the day that he has to leave to work abroad. It was the saddest day. Like most overseas workers, the parent has to leave their family to provide a better future for the family. It was difficult, but like most families, we survived. It must be very hard for him to be separated from his family for so long even though he never told us that it was difficult. We appreciated all of the sacrifices he made.
My husband proudly received his Father’s Day present early this year. It’s a craft made in by my 7 year old son in his special ed class that reads: My dad is special because he takes me to the mall. We play hot wheels together. He takes me outside to play on the swing. He reads with me and play games with me. My dad likes to eat vegetables. We got tickled reading the last part.
To a child, he look up to their father as a hero. As they grow up, he would want to emulate his father if he set up a good example or he can swear not to become his father if he doesn’t have a good relationship with him.
The relationship is what bonds children to their fathers. To be present in a child’s life is more important than unnecessary material things. To give the unhurried time and undivided attention is what they really need.
Though our earthly fathers are far from perfect, there is Our father that love us unconditionally. “God sees us with the eyes of a Father. He sees our defects, errors and blemishes. But He also sees our value”-Max Lucado .This Father’s Day and always we cherish our dads, our husbands, our father-in laws, our step dads and to all the father figures and to the memories that will last a lifetime.
Everyday, we faced with simple tasks like what to wear or what to eat. We all have been in a crossroad of making important decisions that eventually would alter our situation. Some decisions like what you want to major in college or if you would continue your parents business, whom to date, to get married or stay single, to adopt a child or have children.
We make decisions based on what we feel is is best for the present situation. Some factors are monetary, health or strength. The choices we make then will definitely have an impact. Not only does it affect our lives it affects others too. The choices we make have a domino effect like where we to the school, who we develop lifelong relationships or how we touch some ones life.
If we choose to smile when we react to the impatient lady in the queue. If we choose to ignore that person that frown upon us. If we help a person who wronged us, our actions reflect who we are, in tough situations. When we are tired, can we still manage to put on a smile? When our boss is unfair to us, can we still perform our jobs diligently,? Or do we retaliate and mask our sorrow by being mean all day.
We make plans but only God’s perfect will prevail. When we ask God, our father, for something will he not give a scorpion? We worship God as we pray for He knows our desires before we even ask. We seek for wisdom to know if the gifts will hinder our relationship with God. We shouldn’t feel bad for anything that God has given us. May it be something we want or not. God knows our hearts if we are truly grateful. He knows if our hearts are full of arrogance and self centeredness.
When no one is looking, are we doing the right thing? Are we honoring God with our thoughts? How we spend our time? Is the way I perform my job honoring him?
It doesn’t matter what career we choose, what our zip code is, or if we choose to be single or marry. God lead us in situations that may be out of our comfort zone.
As we seek God, we build a relationship with Him, we do little things for his kingdom. He will take care of the big things. As the song goes, For His strength begins when our’s end.