When complaining is a good thing

42524838-03BA-450E-BF49-E4E88FC0C7FB.jpegThere are times when I feel that I am just surviving. Sometimes I complain about being always, exhausted from work. Not having enough time to catch up on my favorite tv series. I get distracted by my cluttered house. I get easily upset dealing with difficult people. Sometimes even the slightest uncomfortable feeling bothers me. I do complain…a lot. Well, nobody likes listening to a negative Nancy!

The list goes on, long lines at the cashier, traffic jams, unpredictable weather, a flat tire. Ordinary things that can happen everyday to anybody. The more stressful and complicated our lives has become, the more positivity self-help ideas are out there. There are different ways how people deal with their grief. Some do complain more than others.

Complaining seems to bring out the negative vibes. It is an affirmation that something needs to be changed for the better. I don’t mean that we should complain often. One article describes complaining as “constructive wallowing”. Our human nature tells us that our emotions and feelings are valid as solving our problems to others might not seem to be a feat.

When we feel physical or emotional pain, do our attitude also changes? Do our relationship with other people get affected when we are hurt? Our hurts are an indication that something is wrong. Beyond the pain, it is difficult to function. It seems that nothing can appease our feelings at the moment. It brings us to realization of what really important in life… its not in the material possessions that we had amassed in our years of working.

When we realize that we have so much to be thankful for, even the tiniest discomfort will not matter anymore.  Our aches is pain will still be there. Nothing is changed but our perspective of seeing things in a broader picture.

So is it okay to see the cup as half-empty?  Sometimes, we do have to experience sickness, defeat, failure,emptiness and darkness to see the light. And with the sorrow that accompanies tragedies we also feel comfort. Sadness is an feeling, and so is happiness. There are lessons to be learned and experienced before we get the understanding. It all points to our loving Father for only by His grace, we are living… we are truly alive!

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